奧巴馬寫給女兒的信:停止在做的17件事(2)
Stop Complaining
We all have problems, and sometimes we needto vent to someone. That’s acceptable, but pay attention to how often you’reventing. We all love helping our friends and family, but when all you get fromsomeone is negativity, it’s easier to cut them off than help, especially ifthey’re always complaining about the same things.
我們都有麻煩事,有時候總想跟別人傾訴。這可以理解,但要注意你吐槽的頻率。我們都喜歡幫助朋友和家人,但如果從那個人身上我只能感知到負能量,那么還是離得越遠越好吧,尤其是當他們在反復抱怨同一件事的時候。
8、別再那么自私
Stop Being Selfish
If you only think about yourself, you’llsoon find yourself by yourself. Stop for a minute and think about how youractions affect other people-did you take the last cup of coffee from thebreak room? Refill it! Do you live with others? Don’t drink out the milkcarton. We share this world 100% of the time, so every action you take canaffect other people.
如果你只考慮你自己,那么很快你會發現身邊只剩下你自己。停一分鐘想想你的行為會給別人帶來什么影響吧——你是不是從休息室拿了最后一杯咖啡?再倒滿呀!你是不是和別人合租?不要喝光所有的牛奶,這個世界是一個完全由大家分享的世界,你所做的每件事都會影響到別人。
9、別再浪費時間
Stop Wasting Time
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again:time is the most valuable resource we have. Don’t waste your time on unproductive things. If you want to explore the world’s dark corners, that’s great. I still associate with people who have not-so-kosher careers, but I don’t hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- and long-term goals.
雖然之前說過了,但我還想再說一遍:時間是我們擁有的最寶貴的資源,不要把時間浪費在沒有意義的事情上面,如果你想探索這個世界的黑暗角落,很好。我也認識一些沒有固定工作的一些自由職業者,但我不會以犧牲自己的短期長期目標為代價和他們出去玩樂。
10、別再做承諾
Stop Making Promises
Always under-promise and over-deliver. Whenyou make a promise, you’re adding responsibility to your plate that, despiteall your best intentions, you may not be able to deliver on. More often thannot, your promise is an absolute (i.e “I promise I’ll always love you”), and onlySith deal in absolutes. Instead of making a promise with your words, simply bethere when people need you, and exceed their expectations with your actions.
總是做承諾,總是做不到。每次做承諾都是不禁給自己增添了責任,無論你的出發點有多好,你都不可能完成所有的部分。大部分時候,你的承諾都太過絕對(比如“我發誓我永遠愛你”),也只能在絕對環境中才能實現。與其用語言許下承諾,不如在別人需要你的時候出現,然后用行動達到他們的期望吧。
11、停止軟弱
Stop Being a Pushover
We live in a capitalistic society in which everyone’s trying to sell us something. Everyone’s looking out for themselves in one way or another, and you need to do the same. Stop putting yourself out because you’re too shy to say no.
我們處于一個資本主義社會,每個人都在試圖向我們推銷些什么。每個人都在用不同的方式關注自己,你也要這樣做。別因為太害羞、不敢說“不”而任人擺布。
12、不要聽懷恨者的話
Stop Listening to Haters
No matter what you want to do in life,there’s always someone around to tell you why it can’t and won’t work. I cancome up with millions of reasons Twitter won’t work, and yet it’s one of themost popular social media sites on the web. My opinion didn’t stop Twitter’ssuccess any more than it convinced Kobe Bryant to quit the NBA or Josh Hartnettto stop acting. Why would you let someone’s opinion stop you?
無論你想干什么,總會有人告訴你不要這么做,沒有用的。我可以想出成百萬條推特不實用的理由,但它還是互聯網上最流行的社交網站之一。我的想法不會阻止推特的成功,就像你無法勸科比退出NBA或喬什·哈奈特不要當演員了一樣,都毫無意義。那么為什么要讓別人的想法阻止你呢?